Let me clarify…
I use the term mentor-father, due to some very important considerations.
Personally, I see that every man who sires a child is called to be a father, and a mentor.
A father, not just being a sire, a pro-creator, but one who exhorts, comforts and charges his children, so they may conduct themselves in an appropriate manner, with character, and healthy habits.
A mentor, being someone, who is that trusted advisor, one who comes alongside to show the way. One who mirrors the life of the mentee, without judgment and condemnation.
A mentor doesn’t just instruct, although instruction would be included, but he would also guide, and demonstrate, and develop, a relationship of such quality, that the child would always have a sense of in-dependence and inter-dependence, while experiencing the freedom of being able to approach the mentor, without force or coercion, to express their individuality, in opinions, ideas, and insights.
The mentor will, wisely and discerningly and discreetly and lovingly, show the boundaries, the essential characteristics and pathway to personal victory and success.
Who does this include?
Who should be doing this?
As I have said every man, basically.
We all have a responsibility to mentor-father this generation and the next. They desperately need us. What a program that would be, that instead of devoting our time to building men’s kingdoms and empires, we would be sacrificing our time to influence and effect a generation.
Ron Luce said that we basically have about a five year window period to win the next generation.
What will the outcome be if we don’t?
What will the world we live in, look like if there are no fathers?
Already, we can see the results of a father-less generation.
What would the effect be if we adopted our children’s friends?
What if we invested more than just an education and some ‘nice’ toys for our children?
What if we took out time every week, to meet and model, and mentor a father-less youth? Took the time to understand them and listen to their hurts and fears and aspirations?
Each and every one of us, as men, have been called by God, the Father, graced and equipped, to be exceptional mentor-fathers, to this next generation.
