The Mentors Integrity

Instructors instruct and teach;
Trainers train

But
Mentor/fathers influence by being an example, by building relationship, by wise counsel and guidance and coaching.

Mentor/fathers know it is a vital habit to be individuals of absolute integrity.

Our ability to make and keep promises is one measure of faith in ourselves and of our integrity.
Stephen Covey.

Integrity means I keep my commitments to myself and to others.
It means I live true to my own personal values and principles.
Of course,
it stands to reason these must have a foundation in principles that are grounded in that which adds values to my personal life and the lives of those around me.
It means I live an authentic life from within my own personal leadership and then also staying true to the commitments and promises I make to others.

For us to grow and for us to keep progressing it will always be necessary to commit to resolves and to make promises, but never make a promise you are not prepared and able to keep and fulfil.
Only then can others/ mentees trust us to keep our word and stay true to who we are and what we are committed to.

Do not promise what you know you will falter on.

Fathers this is a biggie.

When you make promises you do not keep, not only have you devastated a little persona expectation, but you have also subtracted a little more trust from your relationship, and left your heart insecure within yourself – you cannot trust yourself.
This is not even to mention what blatant lieing will do to a relationship and your own heart.

Well, the fact of the matter is, if you do not keep your word and your resolve you have lied to yourself and to the other person.
Every relationship is built on a delicate foundation of trust, which comes from a a life of integrity.
This trust then builds and gives expression through communication.
No trust, no communication.
No integrity, no trust.

It is a tremendous influence to your mentee, when you believe in yourself and show the confidence that comes from this internal integrity.

But also when you are known as a person that keeps your word
and who fulfills your commitments, finishes your tasks and can be depended on.

Good intentions account for nothing when those intentions are not complimented with actions of integrity.
I have sat with influential men who have flat out lied about their motive and give altered accounts of incidents to flower them or to deceive so as to avoid scrutiny.
And then again I have encountered individuals who have down right lied by making exorbitant claims and promises that they could not or never intended to fulfil.

How do you rate you integrity?
Do you keep your personal commitments to yourself?
Is your word your bond?
Are you known as someone who can be depended on?
Are you building trust in your relationships through being authentic and building trust into those relationships?
Can your mentees trust you?