The right relationships

The question is, how do I know who the right life partner is for me?
Is there one specific person for me to marry and spend the rest of my life with?
Well, how do we know anything is right for us?

Some have a clear knowledge that they have found the right one, but many others don't. So how can they know?
Rom 9:1 I am speaking the truth; I belong to Christ and I do not lie. My conscience, ruled by the Holy Spirit, also assures me that I am not lying.
In every decision we need to be led by the Holy Spirit's promptings, nudges, leadings and impressions. Sometimes these can be a gentle "feeling", and then at times it can a very strong resolution within the deepest part of your bowels.
Every time I have disobeyed these promptings, these cautions, I have found myself getting into situations that were undesirable and costly in one way or another.
Always "listen" to and obey those promptings and nudges you have within.
Confront the person involved, if necessary.
But sometimes you may have to just step back and reevaluate the situation you are stepping into.
Always be secure in who you are. You do not need to 'please' anybody and thereby make a mistake.
Don't be desperate.
Trust the discernment of your heart.
Listen to your "heart".
Be careful, and know when you are being manipulated and intimidated-this is not God's way for you. Godly relationships are liberating, edifying and allow free expression of your individuality and personality.
Know that when you try an appease men, you are being enslaved to them.
Live right, the dream comes to you.

Marriage

On Friday Michelle and I celebrated another year of marriage and companionship. This makes 26 years. When you chose that amazing and wonderful partner, as the one for the rest of your life, you really do not know how that relationship and its vows are going to be tested. And probably a good thing too, otherwise you may never choose.
But you know the Lord has a purpose for our lives, including the person we are to spend the rest of our lives with.
When I met Michelle there was no way I could anticipate all that our journey together would have to endure and enjoy.
Now, I don't think there is anyone I would rather have chosen. She has been such a strength to me in my most critical moments. (Thanks Honey!) She has given me three great sons and been my companion through thick and thin.
Do not base your marriage only on the 'feelings' that change from season to season. Because they change, they can go from bad to good as sure as they go from good to bad. Value what the Lord has given you. How quickly we take for granted that which we treasured so much when we first received.
The essence of marriage is that the two shall become ONE flesh. This is an intimacy of spirit and soul that keeps what God has put together as the center of focus.
The danger is we somehow slip into an old mode of thinking that settles into a mentality of well they just need to happy with me. Instead, we should constantly keep our spouse's life and needs in mind. Be sensitive to their growth and changes they are experiencing and grow with them. When your spouse is your agenda, your communication and efforts are geared toward them and their needs. Always what you give away will come back to you, so much more anyway.

So, here's praying for a rich, satisfying and fulfilling marriage for you too.

News March

Hi

We have seen some changes this year and we still are not sure what lays ahead for us these next few months.
The ministry we were with was disbanded and left us rather high and dry and then we moved to Pennsylvania only to find we don't fit here either.
But we know the Lord is not surprised by these things either and He will make a way for us.
We are nonetheless busy with ministering to peoples lives, mentoring wherever the Father gives us opportunity. As we share the heart of the Father with people we constantly hear the comment, "We need this, it's so refreshing".

Paul said,"For we brought the Good News to you, not with words only, but also with power and the Holy Spirit, and with complete conviction of its truth." 1 Thess 1:5
People are tired of just hearing men's hearts, they NEED the Father's heart. Michelle and I seek to share the revelation of God's truth not just as mere words of men, but with absolute conviction of its truth, with substance.

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1 Corinthians 4:4

"For though you have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet have ye not many fathers;..."

Instructor: A tutor, someone in the office of leading children to school.

Father: a person respectable on account of his age or dignity.

In the time we live in, a very necessary element required is that of mentors or fathers. I perceive that instructors or tutors have brought us to a season where now it is time for the church to function. but such function requires the wisdom of experience, the function of fathers or mentors in the Body.

One is not more important than the other. Both are needed in this hour. But where are the fathers? Where are those who are prepared to lay down their lives for the sake of fathering and mentoring another generation to take the flame and the reigns to reach a lost world.
As I have ministered on this topic in many places and to many hearts across the country, I have become aware of some characteristics of the 2 functions that we need.

1.Instructors/tutors have an agenda to impart. they are captivated by their purpose of imparting a teaching, a revelation, and that is their agenda. Now as I have stated there is nothing wrong with that, but we just need to understand the differing roles and how they are to be perceived.
However, the mentors agenda is the individual. Mentors lose themselves, in a sense, and focus on the work and progress of God in the individual or group that they are dealing with. Though they may use their own lives and experience as an example, the focus is not on them, but on the protoge.

2.Instructors are concerned with the accuracy of their knowledge and its presentation.
Mentors are more concerned with the individuals life's journey and guiding them in it.

3.Instructors are excited and and focus on the quantity of the knowledge, but mentors have a focus on the mentee. To the mentor, the mentee's experience of reaching maturity is upper most and will direct the mentee to find the resources for attaining that.

4.For instructors the process they are presenting is the path or road to fulfilling potential (Please understand these are very broad terms), but the mentor journeys with their mentee in a constant pursuit of their destiny and the will of God for their lives.

5.For the instructor the relationship is always one of teacher to student. The mentor/mentee is a relationship that goes beyond mere influence, but one of being a mirror to the intents of the heart, direction in the wisdom of being who the mentee is, friend, confidant, a personal reflector of values and belief system, inspiration to the heart and most of all a representation of the Heavenly Father.

Yes we need mentors and it's real buzz word today. But what responsibility this carries, as these men and women shape the deep character of another generation. The hidden values that each generation carries are those passed on from generation to generation. Whether we mentoring as parents or spiritual leaders or business leaders, let us never take for granted the awesome platform God has given us to fashion the behavior of the next generation by our investment in the present generation of the qualities that reveals our wonderful Father in Heaven.
Jesus always made a point of directing everything He did to the His Father. Though He trained and equipped them for their ministry, in essence He said "I show you the Father". John 8:54
May men and women arise who will show us the Father.

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Thank you so much to all that have so generously contributed to our ministry and lives here. We so appreciate your gifts, but most of all the fruit that abounds to your account because of God's supply for all your need according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

If you wish to send a gift or a seed offering, please drop us an email and we will let you have the details you need.
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The Enoch Enterprise is a ministry of mentorship to bring groups and individuals to a walk with God that is pleasing to Him.
Please partner with us as we reach out to people personally in the church and market place. We appreciate your love and prayers.

As a market place business ministry, the Lord has given me the opportunity to apply my experience in pastoring, ministering and mentoring to help individuals in their journey to be their best and balance their lives purposefully and passionately.
If you know of anyone who would be interested in a personal journey of strategic living by having a mentor/coach journey with them, or maybe even yourself, please pass on my details. I would be very grateful.
www.mbcint.com
shaun.smit@mbcint.com
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Till next time...
Be blessed and
Be strong