Guard The Tongue.

Courage is the quality of every quality at its highest testing point.

Stephen Covey

Guarding what you say and how you say it takes tremendous courage and self control.

Derogatory or negative words can inflict wounds beyond anything we could physically do to a person. Words last longer, go deeper, and influence than we sometimes can imagine.

Some people take great delight in boasting about their ability to tell someone off, putting others in their place, sarcastically bring them down to size and tell them exactly how 'they feel' about them.

But the Bible says:

We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in WHAT HE SAYS, he is a perfect man, able to keep HIS WHOLE BODY in check. James 3.2

Perfect here is not, as in, never a fault, but rather a mature, fully grown up person. Someone who is emotionally mature enough to keep themselves in control, even as a mentor(verse 1).

Isn't that amazing?

Keep your tongue in check and controlled and you keep your whole body bridled or mastered.

Weighing your words before speaking, especially when you are stressed, under pressure, tired, frustrated, and irritated, takes tremendous self-discipline. But this could mean the difference in destroying someone's life and purpose, or at least inflicting wounds that create callous insensitive hearts or an mentee that does the same to others.

You must be a reference point, a model, an example of someone who can guard their words so that you do not react to situations, without a self-discipline or self-control.

Much can be said about the power of words to build, encourage, acknowledge, love, and empathise with another person, or to tear down, wound, destroy, break down, discourage, manipulate and divide from another person.

But really the idea here is that we see the vital place of making control of or tongue a habit and behaviour that we can live as mentor/fathers, to be seen by those we mentor and father.

Do you think before you speak?

Or do you mouth off and then regret what you have said afterwards, if at all?

How measured are your words?

Do you personally have mastery in this habit, this element?

Can you honestly say, under all conditions, that you are able to choose your words and not react with negative words?

Are you in the habit of building people with your words?